Make a New Habit That Sticks –
We’ve all made New Year’s resolutions that didn’t work.
Some of our most popular New Year’s resolutions that tank are:
- Starting an exercise habit.
- Improving diet habits.
- Being on time.
- Improving spending habits.
- Finally reading the entire collection of Calvin and Hobbes.
How many of you, for example, have actually read the entire Calvin and Hobbes collection back to back? See. I rest my case.
The statistics agree.
A 2007 study by Richard Wiseman from the University of Bristol involving 3,000 people showed that 88% of those who set New Year resolutions fail, despite the fact that 52% of the study’s participants were confident of success at the beginning.
That’s the bad news.
The good news is, there’s a reason they fail and you can do something about it. You can learn to make changes that stick and eliminate bad habits that are preventing your best life.
Here are the three things you want to watch out for when you make your New Year’s resolution. Avoid these three resolution mistakes and you’ll greatly increase your chances of success.
The Three Resolution Making Mistakes Are:
- Avoiding issues that you’re in the most pain about.
- Failing to connect with the long-term vision for making the change.
- Committing to steps that are too big.
It’s a New Year’s Resolution, Not a Last Year’s Reconstruction
The whole point of making a resolution is to bring conscious awareness to our actions and behavior in a new way. There are a few common bad habits that make doing this difficult for us.
First, the habit of distracting ourselves rather than being mindful of where we’re feeling pain puts us at a big disadvantage right from the very start. We wind up choosing a New Year’s resolution that isn’t that important to us and carries a weak emotional connection.
Second, the habit of fearing the worst, rather than imagining the best, blocks us from connecting to a compelling future that could supercharge our efforts if we allowed ourselves to envision it. That turns our New Year’s resolution into an avoidance strategy instead of a launch pad.
Third, the habit of generalizing counteracts the mechanics required to bridge successfully to a new habit and create change. Generalizing causes us to make New Year’s resolutions that are too big, where we expect results too soon, and that don’t have a defined measurement of success.
These habits unconsciously leave us with a reconstruction of the parts of our lives that we’re already dissatisfied with.
3 Sterling Questions to Create Your New Year’s Resolution
There are three great questions you should be asking yourself in the process of committing to a resolution. Each of these carefully formulated questions will help you to bypass the unconscious mistakes and mindless habits that I’ve already mentioned.
The questions serve as a simple mindfulness exercise that will put your New Year’s resolution on the right track for success, rather than adding another failed New Year’s resolution to the list.
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Go ahead. Practice Freedom.